So imagine you've had a bath and you are ready for a relaxing night at home with Netflix. And you put on the most comfy yet ugliest pair of pajamas you own...which may singlehandedly indicate why you are home alone. When alas, you realize there is no cat food.
So you decide to be "that person" and venture to Walgreens in said pjs to get cat food and some necessary toiletries. So you go...and it is shockingly crowded. And people are looking at you...in the ugly pjs. And you are slightly humiliated so you are trying to keep a low profile.
So imagine you arrive at checkout...and a crowd of people are lining up behind you. A mixed bunch of people....families, young guys and an alcoholic painter. And the cashier begins to ring you up.
Now think of the one ITEM you need to buy that you pray no one notices. The ITEM that makes you duck your head as she scans it. Well, in my case, as she scans said ITEM...she yells "oh no" and gets on the intercom and says "I need a manager...computer shutdown". So as everyone in line looks to the counter to see what has shut down the Walgreens computer system...she holds up the ITEM to me and loudly says "see I scanned it here and it just shut the whole thing down".
So I turn to the entire line of people and say "yes...my ITEM shut down the computer and I'm wearing my pajamas".
If you are gonna be humiliated...might as well own that baby. The end.
Monday, March 31, 2014
Tuesday, March 11, 2014
First Kiss
So my last post was love at first sight. This post is about first kisses. Although this isn't my creation it made me so happy to see.
I am so in love with this video about 20 strangers kissing after meeting each other for the first time. The background song is so perfect too. Live and Love because life is so short and precious.
Click below.
Enjoy this amazing Tuesday!
Friday, March 7, 2014
The Nose Knows and Love at First Sight
A while ago a friend asked me if I believe in love at first sight. Immediately I said "No". I told him that I believe in lust at first sight. I referred to a magazine article written about "The Science of Love" which pretty much says we are a bunch of animals sniffing each other for reproductive compatibility.
The article detailed how the infatuation stage is made of up of the release and exchange of pheromones between people who are genetically more diverse (which means better babies!). These couples are the most attracted to each other. People who are too genetically similar (think Deliverance--the far and scariest end of the spectrum) are not as "attracted"--there is a lack of a spark.
I have a super sensitive nose. So I bought into this whole theory. I mean....I have dated the nicest, most amazing men and I know there isn't a future. I swear I can sometimes detect an odor--not even a bad odor--just a smell. It's not breath. It's not a lack of deodorant. It's just a faint scent. But it repels me romantically.
Another article I read said that if the scent reminds of a brother or father--you are genetically similar and not the best fit for procreation. Again, think Deliverance. I've experienced that too and for me, that scent can make or break a romantic relationship. "Hey you....you kinda smell...can we be BFFs?"
And then there have been those few men who could cradle me beneath their arm-pits and I would breathe in like an addict craving opium. In all honesty....these men just happened to be some of the worst dating ideas I have ever had. But wow the scents. And there went the sense.
Now where am I...? *sigh* Oh yeah....love at first sight.
I never deluded myself into thinking those good-smelling hunks were proof of love at first sight. Quite the opposite. It proved my pheromone theory. We are animals. Romantic love is something spiritual that can't happen instantaneously. It is about intimacy and growth and intellectual connection and emotional compatibility. Love is not a musky armpit.
Then I met someone online. And frankly he wasn't my "type" from pictures and I was slightly iffy as to my interest level based on our texting or e-mails. But the first time I saw him from a distance...the room around me seemed to be moving at a different speed than I. I became nervous and shaky yet comfortable and totally entranced by his every word.
By date two--the words "I love him" were echoing through my head. "WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH ME?" popped into my brain next...thankfully snapping me back to reality to maintain some semblance of dignity. I told myself that I was needy, lonely, tired or crazy. Love at first or maybe second sight is not real. It was a chemical imbalance that kept getting worse until I felt like a basket-case of new feelings and thoughts and ideas...
Sadly, love or not, that particular relationship ended very quickly. I wasn't ready for something serious whether or not I was ready to admit it. And that subconsciously sabotaged the whole thing. Timing can be such a pain....
Since then I have thought more about the idea. The moment I saw my children I loved them desperately. It was something more deep and pure than I have known before. That is love at first sight. Yes...those babies were a part of me for nine months but if you understood my difficult pregnancies...you'd know that "baby-in-my-belly connectedness" might not be a good thing in my case. And yes these babies do depend on us to survive...and we have instincts about caretaking...but I also know that there is something magical that happens between a mother and child that is inexplicable.
It is Love at First Sight. So is a first-time romantic, magical, spiritual moment between two people who are destined for love possible?
I don't know.
I think only time will tell what is love and what is not love. The scientist in me looks forward to further down the road when I can look back on that particular relationship and see if I still think I might have experienced love at first sight. I can't pinpoint anything that would have made this interaction different than my other relationships (and there have been plenty)...it was just different.
Interestingly enough--the article I mention before does detail a lengthy study of the brains of couples who were newly in love. Over the course of years they did brain scans of all the couples to compare the brain activity of both partners at the beginning of the relationship and then over time. Sure enough, there was an area of the brain that "lit up" at the beginning of the relationship but that became inactive over time.The partners still "loved" each other but no longer felt the spark and butterflies in the belly consistently...if at all.
However, there were a handful of couples who claimed that the spark had never gone away after years and years and years. Surprisingly, there was something different in their brain scans too. The areas of the brain that were active during the "infatuation" phase were still active. These couples claimed to be as deeply in love and as passionate as in the beginning. There is no scientific explanation.
Is that evidence of love at first sight? I don't know. And I certainly believe you can love someone gradually which, I have to believe, is just as meaningful.
But looking backward, the romantic in me has begun opening her mind to this love at first sight thing. Maybe it does create a deeper and more passionate connection over time for those select few lucky souls who experience it.
If that is the case...and time will tell...I hope it can happen twice.
The article detailed how the infatuation stage is made of up of the release and exchange of pheromones between people who are genetically more diverse (which means better babies!). These couples are the most attracted to each other. People who are too genetically similar (think Deliverance--the far and scariest end of the spectrum) are not as "attracted"--there is a lack of a spark.
I have a super sensitive nose. So I bought into this whole theory. I mean....I have dated the nicest, most amazing men and I know there isn't a future. I swear I can sometimes detect an odor--not even a bad odor--just a smell. It's not breath. It's not a lack of deodorant. It's just a faint scent. But it repels me romantically.
Another article I read said that if the scent reminds of a brother or father--you are genetically similar and not the best fit for procreation. Again, think Deliverance. I've experienced that too and for me, that scent can make or break a romantic relationship. "Hey you....you kinda smell...can we be BFFs?"
And then there have been those few men who could cradle me beneath their arm-pits and I would breathe in like an addict craving opium. In all honesty....these men just happened to be some of the worst dating ideas I have ever had. But wow the scents. And there went the sense.
Now where am I...? *sigh* Oh yeah....love at first sight.
I never deluded myself into thinking those good-smelling hunks were proof of love at first sight. Quite the opposite. It proved my pheromone theory. We are animals. Romantic love is something spiritual that can't happen instantaneously. It is about intimacy and growth and intellectual connection and emotional compatibility. Love is not a musky armpit.
Then I met someone online. And frankly he wasn't my "type" from pictures and I was slightly iffy as to my interest level based on our texting or e-mails. But the first time I saw him from a distance...the room around me seemed to be moving at a different speed than I. I became nervous and shaky yet comfortable and totally entranced by his every word.
By date two--the words "I love him" were echoing through my head. "WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH ME?" popped into my brain next...thankfully snapping me back to reality to maintain some semblance of dignity. I told myself that I was needy, lonely, tired or crazy. Love at first or maybe second sight is not real. It was a chemical imbalance that kept getting worse until I felt like a basket-case of new feelings and thoughts and ideas...
Sadly, love or not, that particular relationship ended very quickly. I wasn't ready for something serious whether or not I was ready to admit it. And that subconsciously sabotaged the whole thing. Timing can be such a pain....
It is Love at First Sight. So is a first-time romantic, magical, spiritual moment between two people who are destined for love possible?
I don't know.
I think only time will tell what is love and what is not love. The scientist in me looks forward to further down the road when I can look back on that particular relationship and see if I still think I might have experienced love at first sight. I can't pinpoint anything that would have made this interaction different than my other relationships (and there have been plenty)...it was just different.
Interestingly enough--the article I mention before does detail a lengthy study of the brains of couples who were newly in love. Over the course of years they did brain scans of all the couples to compare the brain activity of both partners at the beginning of the relationship and then over time. Sure enough, there was an area of the brain that "lit up" at the beginning of the relationship but that became inactive over time.The partners still "loved" each other but no longer felt the spark and butterflies in the belly consistently...if at all.
However, there were a handful of couples who claimed that the spark had never gone away after years and years and years. Surprisingly, there was something different in their brain scans too. The areas of the brain that were active during the "infatuation" phase were still active. These couples claimed to be as deeply in love and as passionate as in the beginning. There is no scientific explanation.
Is that evidence of love at first sight? I don't know. And I certainly believe you can love someone gradually which, I have to believe, is just as meaningful.
But looking backward, the romantic in me has begun opening her mind to this love at first sight thing. Maybe it does create a deeper and more passionate connection over time for those select few lucky souls who experience it.
If that is the case...and time will tell...I hope it can happen twice.
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